I spent some of the last seven days in Ottawa, and didn’t have time to make any blog-related visits, which sucked. But, something blogworthy did happen – I ran into someone I had defriended. Here’s how it went:
Me: I’d like to buy this please.
Her: That will be $12.99.
Her: Ok, swipe.
Her: Do you want the receipt in the bag?
And that’s it.
This is someone I went to high school with, but never spoke to. If it wasn’t for Facebook, I wouldn’t even have recognized her (let alone wonder whether I should try and start up an awkward conversation). I have no idea if she recognized me, if she did she probably wanted to speak to me even less than I wanted to force a conversation with her.
Ok, so why defriend in the first place? I’m sure she’s nice enough, so that’s not it. It was mostly because I find the whole Facebook experience overwhelming, which is why I started this blog in the first place. So about a year ago I tried to pare my list down to people who would probably say yes if I cold-called them in the middle of the week and asked if they wanted to go for a drink.
I knocked too many people off – almost 100 I think. And I’ve slowly added some back, and I’m so glad that I did. But the weekend run-in was a good reminder of the inherent stupidity of social media and the false connections that are created.
I said when I started the blog I wasn’t going to drop anyone through the project, and I’m going to hold to that. And in the coming week I’ll even profile someone who added me as a friend after reading the blog. Which isn’t actually all that strange – I’ve already done one interview with someone I’ve never met but intend to as soon as possible. Or so I keep saying.
But, as Sarah Crosbie kind of asked on Facebook the other day – why do you defriend people? WordPress has a poll feature, so let’s give that a try. Or, just comment. Or not. I’m going to go back to this vacationing business now. See you Monday.